Do You Know Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette?

Photos by Amy J. Owen

Traditionally planned and hosted by the groom’s family, rehearsal dinners and venues range from casual or formal to full-blown events with specialized menus welcoming the family, wedding party and out-of-town guests of the groom and bride. While modern trends move toward unconventional styles, it’s always good to know some standard details so the pre-ceremony bash goes off without a hitch! 

Who throws the rehearsal dinner? 

Typically, the groom’s parents host the event, but today’s brides and grooms may choose to be the organizers. 

Who covers the expenses? 

The general rule of thumb is the groom’s parents cover the expenses. To ensure a stress-free party, the bridal couple should discuss these details before the date. 

What about invitations? 

A formal invitation is customary for formal affairs. For casual gatherings, an e-vite or phone call is appropriate. No matter the level of formality, inform your guests four to six weeks before the event. 

Is the location important? 

Yes! Keep the venue within a reasonable distance from any guest hotels and provide transportation if possible. Your out-of-town guests and family will appreciate venues within twenty minutes of the ceremony location. 

Should I prepare for a toast? 

Most toasts at the rehearsal dinner are playful roasts of the bride and groom in an open-mic atmosphere. It is common for the bride and groom to thank their parents, guests or others who helped with the wedding planning—they may also present these individuals with small gifts. 

Is cake served? 

Themed groom’s cakes are a popular choice for rehearsal dinners as a fun way to throw a spotlight on the groom. Cupcakes, pies, cookies or brownies can also be served.